Family members had me write letters but nothing was made of it. My childhood was not the norm for the times. It's the one I know best so I am in no position to judge.
Writing about my life would mean re-living all of it. I have no inclination. I often reflect, If people knew what was ahead, they wouldn't go. That's idle thinking. "Gather ye rosebuds where ye may" to make life palatable.
A homily posted on Facebook yesterday notes one doesn't have to attend every argument
invited. It's true. Many are not worth the breeze to blow them away.
But life is chock- a -block with foolishness. Only three options exist for an individual to maintain equilibrium. Complete withdrawal, abject acquiescence or fight the good fight.
The first two hold no appeal. I choose to stand and fight. I regret only the ones I let get away.
Chritsmas before last ,Theresa gave me a hundred dollar gift voucher at a new spa in town.
Despite the hard sales pitch launched immediately into the session I enjoyed the pampering.
After it was over I did pick up a magic potion before leaving. No price tag. The cashier rang up $65.45. It was a shock. I wasn't sure about sales tax. I asked for details. Price was immediately dropped by $20. without explanation.
I always regret not making an issue of the deliberate overcharge. It probably happens regularly
and not just with elderly clients. It was never repeated with me.
The first in camera meeting of the 2010/14 Council was another invitation I let slip by.
Councillor Gaertner had earlier indulged in offensive defence of the defeated alliance.
Mayor Dawe in closed session, in accordance with no procedure rule ever heard of, ripped into the Councillor and threatened her if she ever did that again.
O.M.G. I thought...what have we here?
The Councillor had allies at the table but no reaction ensued to gratuitous belligerence from the presiding member.
I owed Councillor Gaertner nothing. But I regret not taking up the cudgels to defend the dignity of the office won fair and square in the recent election.
It may not have made a difference.
But that's not the point of taking a stand on principle.
So, yes .....every invitation to an argument doesn't need to be taken up. But split second decisions sometimes let the right ones slip away.
The ones one remembers with regret.